Khloe & Lamar

Lamar Odom seems to be waiving the white flag over his marriage -- at least that's the way it appeared when he was asked about Khloe Kardashian on his way out of lunch to celebrate his 34th birthday.

Lamar went to Casa Vega in the San Fernando Valley -- a place Kim, Khloe and the rest of the klan often go for good Mexican food.

Watch the video and see the look on Lamar's face when he tries to deal with the Khloe question.

TMZ broke the story ... Khloe plans to divorce Lamar, but she's made a decision NOT to prepare or file any legal docs, because she thinks it could be the last straw in his fragile life. On top of that, there's no pressing reason to pull the trigger on the marriage ... yet.

Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom are packing it in -- we've learned they are secretly selling their Tarzana mansion.

Real estate sources tell TMZ ... Khloe has given several San Fernando Valley realtors a pocket listing -- meaning the house will not appear in the multiple listing service. It's being done on the down low. Any prospective buyer must pre-qualify before seeing the house, meaning they must have the dough to buy the crib.

We're told Khloe and Lamar want a cool $4 mil for the house. They paid $3.95 million in 2009.

Our sources say Khloe is the driving force behind the sale, telling realtors she wants to "start fresh and move on."

Title to the house is held in both Khloe and Lamar's names.

Lamar Odom just dodged a bullet -- he will NOT be prosecuted for damaging a photog's gear ... provided he keeps his nose clean and gets help with his anger issues.

TMZ has learned ... Lamar went to the L.A. City Attorney's Office Monday for an office hearing, along with his lawyer, Shawn Holley. A hearing officer told Lamar he would NOT be prosecuted for vandalism, provided that he pay for the damaged equipment. He was also told if he broke the law within a year's time from when the incident happened ... criminal charges would be filed.

Sources connected with Lamar tell TMZ ... he also agreed to get anger management counseling.

Lamar Odom was drunk -- very drunk -- at Beacher's Madhouse in Hollywood Wednesday night ... eyewitnesses tell TMZ -- and it's a dramatic, depressing turn in his life.

People who were present tell us ... Lamar showed up with several guys. In short order Lamar was hanging at the bar doing shots of Patron. For the next 3 hours, Lamar could not be seen without a glass of champagne.

Our sources say he was "hammered." One witness -- who knows the difference -- says Lamar didn't seem like he was on drugs. It appeared to be alcohol-fueled.

Lamar stayed until closing at 2 AM. By 2:30 AM he was in the valet area talking about where to go for the "after party."

Lamar Odom may have ruined his chances of EVER returning to his beloved Los Angeles Lakers ... so says his ex coach and NBA legend Phil Jackson.

Jackson didn't mince words to TMZ when we asked if he thought Lamar would ever return to the purple and gold. He said, "I think that bridge might have been burned."

In case you didn't know, Phil is pretty tight with Lakers execs -- he lives with team Prez Jeanie Buss.

And this is interesting. Phil tells us ... he's not blaming the Kardashian family for Lamar's woes, despite a recent interview in which he hinted that Lamar would have been better off without the K-fam.

He says although the reality show was "a distraction" for Lamar, there's a benefit that outweighed the negative -- "Lamar got a family and a caring unit."

He also said he worries that Bruce Jenner is out of the picture ... because Lamar related to him as an athlete.

As for what caused Lamar to unravel, Jackson said he's been dealing with "too many personal things," although he was not specific.

We've just confirmed ... Lamar Odom WAS with Khloe Kardashian last night at Kanye West's concert ... but sources familiar with the situation tell TMZ ... she is NOT reconciling with him.

We're told the reason Lamar was invited ... he's been clean and sober for several weeks and the Kardashians are "supporting his recovery and wanted him to have a good time."

Lamar showed up by himself, but joined Khloe inside Staples for the concert. We've also confirmed Bruce Jenner was also there. Kris Jenner was there as well, and she hung out with Bruce -- but again, they're not back together either.

Bruce brought his sons, Brody and Brandon.

The plot thickens with Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian ... they both showed up at Kanye West's concert in Downtown L.A. Monday night ... but just how close they were is up for debate.

We got this pic of Lamar showing up -- ALONE -- at the back of Staples Center. We also got far off shots inside the venue of Kylie waving to someone.

And there's this. Khloe tweeted a pic of the stage and wrote, "Yeezus."

There are multiple people who were tweeting they saw the whole Klan together at the concert -- including Khloe, Lamar and even Bruce.

Lamar Odom just fired back at the paparazzo who sued him for assault ... claiming the whole allegation is B.S.

Lamar claims the photog -- Stefan Saad "provoked [Lamar's] unlawful and wrongful conduct."

TMZ obtained the answer Lamar just filed -- courtesy of his lawyer, Shawn Holley -- and he says it would be unjust for Saad to get a penny from him.

The incident that triggered the lawsuit occurred on July 10, when Lamar confronted Saad who was questioning him about having an alleged affair. Lamar took the photog's equipment from his car and threw it into his own car. Lamar drove a few blocks and then tossed the equipment into the street.

Lamar Odom tells TMZ he hasn't been blackballed from the Kardashian family -- and WAS invited to Kanye's big proposal to Kim -- but he CHOSE not to go because he had better things to do that night.

It was just one of the topics Lamar addressed on his way out of the Spitting Chicken Cantina in Sherman Oaks, CA last night ... telling us about his friendship with Kobe, his relationship with his dad and his battle to get back into the NBA.

In fact, L.O. says he believes he's back in playing shape -- telling us, "I can play a basketball game and probably play really well."

He wanted to prove it by showing off his physique -- jokingly asking, "Do you wanna see me with my shirt off or my pants down?"

Don't worry, he didn't follow through on his offer.

Lamar Odom aggressively wanted to talk to a photog yesterday, about life, health, basketball and marriage.

Lamar has NEVER been chatty, so this lunchtime video is pretty shocking. The photog tries to end the interview several times and Lamar actually calls him back. Among the subjects:

You gotta see it. It's as revealing as anything we've seen in a long time.

Do as he says, not as he does -- at least that was Lamar Odom's advice to a 7-year-old boy Saturday night ... when he warned him about the dangers of drug abuse.

Odom was at a birthday party at Tokyo Delves in North Hollywood -- along with about 20 people -- when the young boy named Elijah approached Odom to ask for a photo.

Elijah's mother tells us, Odom initially turned the kid down, offering to shake Elijah's hand instead and have a brief conversation ... which they did.

The mom says Lamar pontificated about the merits of education and staying in school -- and even encouraged Elijah (who is tall for his age) to play basketball -- but the ironic twist, Lamar finished the conversation by telling him, "Don't do drugs."

He then offered to take the above photo, despite previously refusing.

Lamar Odom's got recovery on his mind -- chowing down on a healthy breakfast in L.A. this morning.

Sources at Crave restaurant in Sherman Oaks tell TMZ, Odom only stopped by for about 20 minutes with another person, but ordered a healthy breakfast of oatmeal, fruit, and coffee.

We're told he ate pretty much everything, which is a good sign ... because if his appetite is returning, it could mean he's finally weaning himself off crack.

As we reported, Lamar's been looking thinner and thinner recently, so a good meal could really benefit him. Especially if he's considering a return to the NBA.

Khloe Kardashian has been heroic in trying to save Lamar Odom, but there's a cold, hard fact ... there's a financial reason why she shouldn't divorce him just yet ... because she's set to inherit millions if something terrible happens.

Numerous Kardashian family sources tell us ... Lamar has a will which leaves the lion's share of his assets to Khloe. Lamar has made more than $100 million dollars over his13-year career, and unlike other players, we're told he hasn't blown through it.

We're also told he has a life insurance policy that makes Khloe the primary beneficiary.

As we have previously reported, Khloe is ready to file for divorce but hasn't done so because she fears it would push Lamar over the edge.

Zac Efron and Lamar Odom haven't let their cocaine problems drag them down completely -- in fact, they're both trying to stay positive ... flashing thumbs up signs in L.A.

Oprah Winfrey is making a full-court press to get Lamar Odom to sit down and unload ... sources connected with both O and Lamar tell TMZ.

We're told no deal has been made, but there have been serious discussions and we're told Lamar is game if the conditions are right.

As for the topics -- drug use, Lamar's troubled marriage to Khloe Kardashian and his future in basketball.

Lamar Odom ate out last night -- Armenian, of course -- but emerged from the restaurant looking scarily thin ... especially for a guy trying to make an NBA comeback after a months-long drug binge.

Lamar and some friends hit up Gavar Cuisine in Glendale, CA -- and he walked out sporting his customary Nike warmup, white tee, and interestingly ... a rosary.

LO thinks he can kick his drug habit without rehab AND return to game-shape for the upcoming NBA season, so ... if anyone could use religion it's him.

But judging by his gaunt frame ... what he really needs is a couple of double-cheeseburgers.